The Break Up Breakdown (Episode 57)

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Understanding Relationship Addiction: From Breakups to Self-Discovery

In this candid episode of the MindShift Power Podcast, Fatima Bey welcomes back Janice Formichella, a dating and breakup coach from Denver, Colorado. They delve deep into the challenging experience of breakups, exploring the emotional rollercoaster that both teenagers and adults face when relationships end.


The Addiction Analogy: Why Breakups Are So Painful

Janice shares her perspective on why breakups are so hard, likening the emotional turmoil to overcoming an addiction. "We form intense connections and habits with people," she explains. "When that person is taken out of our life, it can be extremely painful, similar to breaking an addiction." This analogy highlights how our bodies and minds become accustomed to the constant engagement and dopamine hits we receive from our partners, making separation feel like withdrawal.


Recognizing Unhealthy Patterns: Beyond Just Love

Fatima and Janice challenge the notion that love is the sole reason for staying in a relationship. They discuss how societal norms and media portrayals often mislead us into believing that enduring pain signifies true love. "Love is real and important, but it's only a part of the equation," Fatima asserts. They emphasize the significance of recognizing unhealthy patterns and understanding that attachment doesn't always equate to a healthy relationship.


The Impact of Negative Relationship Models: Breaking the Cycle

Janice and Fatima dive into the damaging effects of negative relationship models at home. They explore how exposure to toxic dynamics can influence our behavior and lead to repeated mistakes. "Just because something is average doesn't make it normal," Fatima states, urging listeners to break free from harmful patterns ingrained in them by their upbringing and media.


Teen Breakups: The Unique Challenges and How to Support Them

Fatima addresses the unique challenges teens face during breakups, stressing the importance of validation and support from adults. "Don't brush off their feelings as young and dumb," she advises. Janice adds that teens often lack the knowledge of how to ask for support, making it crucial for parents and elders to offer understanding and guidance.


Healing Strategies: From No Contact to Social Media Detox

Janice provides actionable advice for those struggling to move on from a breakup. She emphasizes the importance of limiting contact with the ex, including blocking them on social media to avoid self-torture. "Create space for healing," Janice advises. Fatima adds the importance of having honest conversations with friends to minimize reminders of the ex.


MindShifting Moment

This episode encourages listeners to reflect on their relationships, understand the impact of negative patterns, and prioritize self-discovery and healing. By breaking free from harmful dynamics and focusing on personal growth, we can build healthier, more fulfilling connections.

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