Episode 27: Phobias

Understanding Phobias: Insights from Dr. Kimberly Boynton

In an episode of the MindShift Power Podcast, we had the privilege of discussing the intricacies of phobias with Dr. Kimberly Boynton, a licensed marriage and family therapist from Southern California with over twenty years of experience working with teens. Hosted by the dynamic Fatima Bey, this episode delves into the nature of phobias, their impact, and strategies to overcome them.

What Are Phobias?

Dr. Boynton explains that phobias are intense and irrational fears of specific objects, situations, or activities that pose little to no actual danger. "People with phobias often experience excessive anxiety and panic attacks when confronted with the source of their fear," she shares. Phobias can significantly impact daily life, causing individuals to go to great lengths to avoid their triggers.

Difference Between Fear and Phobia

One key point discussed is the distinction between fear and phobia. While fear is a temporary emotional response that diminishes once the threat has passed, phobia is more intense and persistent. "Phobia goes beyond a normal, proportional threat, leading to excessive distress and anxiety," Dr. Boynton explains. Fear can turn into a phobia if it becomes a prolonged and controlling aspect of one's life.

Common Phobias Among Teens

Dr. Boynton identifies social anxiety phobia as one of the most common phobias among teens, especially in the wake of the pandemic. "Social distancing has caused a huge phobia of social interactions," she notes. Teens are struggling to navigate social settings and find their place after being isolated for so long.

Feeding Fears

The conversation also highlights the idea that what we feed will grow. "If you feed your fears, they can turn into phobias," Dr. Boynton asserts. She advises against consuming negative media and news, which can perpetuate fears and lead to phobias. "Stop watching the news when you wake up in the morning because you're setting your whole day of fear," she suggests.

Combating Phobias Dr. Boynton shares several strategies to combat phobias:

1. Seek Support: Talk to someone you trust, such as a friend, family member, or teacher. "You don't have to go to a therapist right away; start with someone you can confide in," she advises.
2. Educate Yourself: Learn more about your phobia to demystify and manage it better. "Understanding the nature of your fear can help make it more manageable," Dr. Boynton explains.
3. Positive Visualization: Use positive visualization to imagine yourself successfully managing feared situations. "Reframe negative thoughts and set realistic goals to face your fears," she suggests.
4. Professional Help: If necessary, seek professional help from a therapist or doctor to evaluate and address your phobia.

Finding Beauty in Fear

Dr. Boynton shares her personal experience with a fear of snakes. She found a way to see the beauty in them by focusing on their colors and uniqueness. "Find something positive in that negative," she advises. This approach can help reduce the intensity of the phobia.

Final Thoughts

Dr. Kimberly Boynton's insights remind us that phobias are intense fears that can be managed and overcome with the right strategies and support. By seeking help, educating ourselves, and practicing positive visualization, we can shift our mindset and reduce the impact of phobias on our lives.



Ready to dive deeper? Listen to the full episode of the MindShift Power Podcast with Fatima Bey The MindShifter here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2217223/episodes/14373987