Buried Alive

Fatima Bey The MindShifter • December 1, 2022

 What Are You Buried Under?


The Walking Dead: Alive But Not Living

Since you are reading this, I am going to assume that you are alive. You are a living, breathing human being. Have you ever felt like you’re not really? You’re breathing but not living. Have you ever felt like you are buried alive?


You're Not Alone in This Tomb

If you have, I am talking to you and you are not alone. There are a few reasons this happens. In this article, I’m going to focus on one of the deeper reasons you are feeling or have felt this way..

 


The Root Cause: Misalignment With Purpose

Simply put, you are misaligned with your purpose. You see, we were each born with a purpose. God needed something in particular done on earth and He created you specifically to do it. The tricky part is discovering what that is. Honestly, figuring that out is a process or journey and it’s not always easy. It is not automatic. Most of us do not come out of the womb knowing exactly what we were called to do or who we are meant to be. God created us that way because we develop as we go on that journey of discovery. The development that happens on that journey is key to your success in fulfilling your purpose. It matures you.

 


The Weight of False Identity

When we feel buried alive there can be several things we are buried under. Some of these things are:

 

  • Being buried under other people’s opinions
  • Trying to be like someone else instead of being you
  • Following a career path you were pressured into instead of pursuing what you truly want to do
  • Being buried under the things you never said but should have
  • Feeling imprisoned because you’re trying to live up to an image that’s not really you

 

There are so many other things I could list here. Every one of these causes you to be outside of yourself. You feel buried alive because you are burying your true self, your true light, with things you are not meant for or to be.

 


Digging Your Way Out: Finding Your True Self

So, what’s the solution? How can you unbury yourself? Simply put, discover your purpose. Take the time to learn who you truly are and are meant to be. Once you have discovered your purpose, you are able to do the things that align with it. THIS is where you will actually begin to feel fulfilled! You will discover untapped joy. This is not an overnight task but a very intentional journey. You may need some help in figuring it out. If so, seek out that help. Get a coach who specializes in this. We know how to ask the right questions and give you the guidance that you need.

 


Resurrection: From Existing to Living

Don’t be the walking dead! Discover your purpose so you can unbury yourself and start living.

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